Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, depend upon our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs.
- There Is A Solution
Below forwarded to me by Paul G. This describes exactly what I used to be like, and what I strive to be now.
In a letter to a friend, AA's co-founder Bill W. once wrote, "Nothing can be more demoralizing than a clinging and abject dependence upon another human being. This often amounts to the demand for a degree of protection and love that no one could possibly satisfy. So our hoped-for protectors finally flee, and once more we are left alone - either to grow up or to disintegrate." We discover, in The Program, that the best possible source of emotional stability is our Higher Power. We find that dependence upon His perfect justice, forgiveness and love is healthy, and that it works where nothing else will.

Do I depend on my Higher Power?

May I realize that I am a dependent person. I have depended upon chemicals to alter my moods and attitudes. I have also developed parasitic attachments for others. May I stop making unrealistic emotional demands on others, which only serve to choke off mature human relationships and to leave me bewildered and let down. Only God can provide the kind of whole-hearted love which I, as a dependent person, seem to need. May I depend first upon God.

Today I will remember God offers perfect love...
Below is an affirmation that came through while making notes on a Fourth Step on relationships.
One day I was searching the Big Book for some guidance: I was developing a new relationship with a person of the opposite sex, and I was having some trouble knowing just how to proceed. I happened upon the chapter “Working with Others”, and found my answers there.

This vital chapter of the Big Book helps those of us who are trying to “carry the message” to an acutely suffering alcoholic. But I believe the wisdom contained within can be applied to any budding relationship.

I confess that, in this context, some of the implications of the text are really funny, but seriously accurate. So please do not interpret this as making light, but as being lighthearted.